Day 160

'There's no need to be bitter', Pen and Marker Paper

A lot of people seem to have a problem with letting things go, any small or slight wrong doing that occurs between two people leaves both parties unable to forgive, unable to forget and unable to move forward. The feeling of hatred bubbles just below the surface all the while intensifying and in some cases poisoning the minds of those around them not directly involved in the initial fracas. This is because when someone has a problem with another member of a network of people they always make sure you know exactly what they did, how wrong they are and how justified their behaviour is in return. There seems to be a necessity to show themselves as the real victim when sometimes this really isn't the case and you are in the position to see this clearly. As the thing is that you know both parties so obviously you hear both sides of the story and are able to judge for yourself who is clearly in the wrong. The problem is though you end up trapped in bizarre hostility tug-of-war, wherein you can't exactly take sides but are expected to. Not only this but when you actually look at the situation from afar you can see just how petty these people are being and how the longer this goes unresolved the further they drift from reason. The problem is that in these situations bitterness, stubbornness and lunacy overwhelm judgement and rational thought so people are incapable of forgiveness. Well the truth is there is no need to be bitter as all it does generate unnecessary conflict, what you should do is be the bigger person and take steps to resolve the animosity even if you not the one to blame. It's not something that is easy to do but once you get over the initial hurdle you'll look back and barely be able to remember the reason you ever had a problem in the first place, infact you may even have a good old laugh about it.