Day 156

'Some people are out of control', Pen on Paper

Some people seem to have the inability to keep things grounded, they let aspects of their lives spiral out of control and are unable to comprehend why things have gotten that way. They haven't the capacity for subtlety or tact when dealing with a sensitive situation, they are quick to shift the blame onto someone else and incapable of shouldering any of the responsibility for themselves. Furthermore the more chances they are given the more the seem to fuck things up, much to the detriment, frustration and irritation of those around them. These people constantly have one finger on the self destruct button and are giving a second finger to those who are only trying to help, where then comes the point where you must draw the line? At what point do we stop throwing life lines to those people that are incapable of seeing exactly how much of an idiot they are being and leave them to their own devices, rather than allowing them to drag those around them deeper into the mire as well. The problem lies in that we understand that things can sometimes get on top of you and  it's easy to let things get out of hand, it happens to all of us at some point and as such we can empathise with these people. Also there exists an element of sympathy and compassion in all of us makes it difficult to cut all ties, whilst on the other hand it brings us close enough to see just how futile and frustrating our efforts are. In the end it normally gets to the point when our patience is tested to breaking point and it just so happens that this is a test that we fail miserably. The overwhelming consequences of their actions just becomes too much for us to take and finally we can realise that for our own sanity, possibly even for others, it is best that we create some distance otherwise lose control ourselves. There are only so many times someone can be bailed out before the weight of their actions leaves them too heavily ladened for us to be able to drag them to safety. It is in these times when they have no-one whose affections they can abuse to escape from owning up to the responsibility of the chaos that they have generated that either makes or breaks them. They will either realise the error of their ways and reform allowing them to flourish or they ignore the warnings and slip further into chaos. From our point of view it is a difficult thing to see but unfortunately sometimes the only thing we can do is limit the impact these people can have. As whilst we may not be able to help bring them under control we can at least control the affect that they have on us and those around them.